GAWildKat

Haven't been through it yet, don't know if I will need it, but hope you get the answers you are looking for, and mend quickly.

Mike and I visited his Dad on Monday, it started off a good visit, then between the speech therapist and physical therapist coming in, Mike's Dad wanting to walk to the bathroom, things went south. He demanded I take him home. When I refused, Zoran yelled at me to leave and threatened to hit me. Mike tried to talk to his Dad and calm him down, when that didn't work Mike told him we were leaving and not coming back until he could treat me respectfully. Some will say oh that's the stroke making him act that way. I wish, nope he had been a verbal bully who would resort to fists when he isn't feeling like he's being heard. I dunno what the family will do. The hospital is keeping him drugged on haldol, but to me that's no way to live. I suppose he will go to a nursing home because I can't take care of him if he wants to fight. I just wish there was another way.

Here at the hospital again as I have been since getting the news. Mike's Dad had a good day yesterday given I'm only here about 4hrs a day. He fights the staff in the mornings before I get here so they are keeping him mostly sedated. For me he takes his meds and he allowed me to arrange him a sponge bath today. I can't confirm yet, but I suspect the sedatives are leaving him more confused and scared than helping. I just know the nurses love me, when I'm not here he refuses everything, I get him to take his meds. The nurse just ran off to grab something because I'm leaving shortly to head home. Yay, 3hour drive ahead. Thanks to those who offered prayers it means a lot to Mike and me.

Here's what we know, Mike's dad knows us, cries when he's happy, combative when he isn't, can't talk well, and uses whatever language he has floating through his head at that moment. Every time he wakes up it's like everything is new to him. Talked to 2 of his doctors, he should be able to go home eventually, but he will need to go to rehab 1st, for several weeks, it's an unknown future right now. I'm beyond livid that his parents fear of doctors and western medicine caused this perfect storms that caused clots and strokes in his heart and brain. Nothing to do now but move forward, but I really want to scream at Mike's mother for this. Noone should have to live this way. This was entirely manageable before the clots and stroke.

Thank you, We are on the way to the hospital now. Get to fight Atlanta traffic and rain today. Yay us.

Mike got a dreaded call tonight. His Mom called to tell him that his Dad has had a bad stroke and is in ICU in Atlanta. Apparently he's been in the hospital since fri, but she only decided tonight to call us, since we raised hell abt not telling us abt bypass surgery 4 yrs ago. We plan to see him tomorrow and find out what's going on. Hopefully it's better than his Mom is making it out to be. Keep him in your thoughts as he processes this. Regards, Tricia

Do y'all have a strong enough sunblock for this redhead? Spf 50 usually doesn't usually work well enougb. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

Dan, I could put you on my diet...lost 50lbs thus far....another 50 to go. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

I need help, I went looking for a solenoid today, called the stealer and they want $83 for it after my discount. That's a bit steep for me, so went to boats.net and they can't find it by model or VIN, does anyone have a direct link to a proper replacement somewhere? Let me know please and thank you. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

We have the canine flu in the Atlanta area as well, Gwinnett County Animal Shelter had to close earlier this week due to an outbreak of canine flu.

Prayers from Mike and me, lost both my parents to cancer, I understand that pain. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

Well if I ever get my own trike I know what color I'm painting it! Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

We haven't met yet, but medical stuff is an adventure with me. I was born with mild hemipledgic cerebral palsy, but ask anyone here who has met me, I generally have a pedal to the metal attitude, more so after being diagnosed 2yrs ago with a valve failing in my heart. Last month I had gastric bypass, even 1month post op, I feel better and have more energy than I have had in years. I haven't lost a lot of weight post op, but I'm losing inches, I went from a size 38/30 to roughly a 34/30 since Feb 2. My problems with my blood sugar aren't uncommon for people on the preop diet or early postop. Considering I had very little discomfort with the surgery I can adjust to this. I did the extremely rare thing and walked 5miles the weekend I came home from the hospital. I have joined the gym run by the hospital and have been hitting the pool, thurs I meet my fitness trainer and start getting down to business. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

You would be correct, and my internist prescribed a freestyle lite to me, so I can check my bg 3times a day. I feel better now than at lunchtime, my predinner bg was 94, breakfast was 89 and lunch was 114. So not awful, btw breakfast was cottage cheese with 4 chunks of pineapple. I cut out all the sugar last summer when surgery was approved. Scary thing is I gave up coffee. I haven't really wanted it postop, been drinking coffee since I was 2 so coffee has been important in my life. I will get through this. Just a bump in the road of life. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

I realized you were poking fun at the irony of a bike with handicap plates and not making fun of those of us with disabilities on a bike. When Mike went to get the handicap plate, the tag office tried to deny him the tag because it's not for him, but me, but GA doesn't make a distinction between cars and bikes. He had to show them the law and get a super to agree that Mike was correct. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

I currently have doctors arguing over how I should eat in regards to my bg, my internist wants me to eat 5-6 tiny meals to better manage my bg, my bariatric doc wants me to now eat 4 small meals no fruit, and as soon as they hire a dietician I get dragged into the office for a consult. Alot of this can be blamed on not having a dietician when I had the surgery. I will get dried fruit and nuts to mix and take with me. Mike was planning on getting me a nice dehydrator to make some jerky and dried fruit snacks for bike trips. I have some camelpaks, so I think I'll be ok. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

I personally like Fincher's and Tucker's bbq and Brunswick stew, here in Middle GA, we went to Fresh air bbq in Jackson, They might have been voted best in GA but to me they miss the mark on flavor, the Brunswick stew was watered down and flavorless, the sour cream pound cake was dry and tasted like it was a box cake...I had a small bite of that and almost spit it out. Rarely am I disappointed with food. Btw, I favor vinegar flavored BBQ over tomato sauce based BBQ. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

Lol Mike freaks out over medical stuff. Noone wanted to see him as I counted down the days til surgery, he was cranky and moody and not pleasant to be around. He really depends on me to condense the medical info. I'm not even sure we had cell service where we were when I blacked out. I think I need a seat belt on the bike now Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

Also, I have almost no warning of a crash, like yesterday, I ate a late lunch, bbq and a taste of some crappy brunswick strew, hopped back on the bike with Mike, was listening to music, abt 45mins later we are in BFE and I slumped over completely out. I came to a few mins later, but couldn't shake that crappy feeling, and Mike not being medical savvy thought the best thing was to take me home and ask me what to do. This time I was lucky. Who knows what will happen next time. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

I eat plenty of protein, I have to get at least 80grams of protein, I've never been a big fruit eater because of the bg crashes, but the surgeon's office insists I have some fruit. So Cottage cheese and Pineapple are my breakfast/snack food this week. Yeah i plan on starting to carry some dried fruit and nuts with me @all times since the surgeon's office doesn't want me carrying candy or glucose tabs with me. My PCP is an internist, not sure if he specializes in diabetes or not, but he's good. I ate some sushi for lunch, had some applesauce too and I still want to curl up and sleep off the cruddy feeling. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

I informed my PCP that I'm having problems with my blood sugar. Mine keeps crashing in the late afternoon and I pass out. So I have to start testing my sugar 3x/day and track it. Yesterday I blacked out on the bike, no candy on me, nor did Mike know what to do. He managed to get me home, but my bg was starting to come up on it's own. I'm staying in a healthy range but is it possible my body's low is above 70? Mine was 89 when I tested, but I still felt horrible. Low bg isn't new to me, I had it in HS and college but wasn't tested or treated for it. Mom's side of the family is diabetic but noone I know has it currently. And to think 3 years ago I was considered borderline prediabetic. Feeling slightly overwhelmed, Tricia Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

Well if only Mike had known there was riding going on besides us, we went to Indian Springs and spent an hour or so walking trails there. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

There's a handicap tag on the cars and bikes at my house not because Mike's disabled, I am. I don't have trouble walking and distance crap most days now, but if I'm in pain walking to the door can be torture. Mike rarely parks handicap while on the bikes unless I'm having a bad day. Especially now when the docs expect me to walk my butt off. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

I won't rub it in then that Mike and I got in a 140 mile ride yesterday. Weather couldn't have been more perfect, I've missed it, last time I rode was at the B2's fish fry last year.

Hi Dan and welcome from another semi local. Hubby and I live in lizella and are always looking for someone to ride with on the weekends. Tis Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.