Thanks for all the suggestions!
I got my tabs welded (with negative batt cable disconnected) for 10,00 and they seem to be very strong.
As for the wandering, I was finally able to get at the bearing nuts with a long thin steel rod and a hammer. One of the prev owners had already taken the washer out so the 2 nuts were jammed together. I loosened the nuts almost a full 2 inches just to get the bars to rebound a little,
It seems to have fixed my wandering by about 95%, I still have a very small bit of wander at about 35 so I may try to loosen just a bit more,
The steering is wayyy lighter and "neutral" than the fighting and constant corrections I had before. Drives great.
Thanks again.
Kev