I love my wife but she can be so..................

[RedRider]

completly it is also the reason im trying to sell my scoot just dont have the same feeling for it anymore it came to a complete shock to me after 17 yrs

oh well life goes on

 

Jack,

 

Really sorry to hear the latest news. That sucks. Been there, done that and didn't waste the time with the T-Shirt.

 

Just a thought - you might want to hang on to the bike. Taking a ride is a great way to clear the head - and you will regularly need head cleaning.

 

I also noticed the time you made your initial post (2:30 am). Two words - Bufferin PM. I went for 6 months getting 3 to 4 hours of sleep a night when we were going thru our troubles (before the divorce). Bufferin PM was the only thing that would allow me to sleep for a whole night.

 

Well, I am pretty sure you are getting plenty of unsolicited advise from folks like me (who you have never met and don't know from Adam), please try your best to just 'be there' for the kids. As tough as it is on you, it is worse to them. They have absolutely no control over the situation and are just along for the bumpy ride.

 

Good luck. Make sure you put aside a little money for new clothes. You are getting into a diet program that is VERY effective - but won't sell many books.

 

RR

[PGunn]

Jack I am truly sorry to hear what you’re going through, my X did the same thing with my "best friend" a long time back, about 30 years ago, but I am much happier for it because the woman I am married to today has it over her by 100 times. And to be honest if it wasn't for her I would not be riding the bike I have today, that woman sure knows her way around a $1.00.

Now to give you guys an idea of bull headed and a lesson learned, my wife I think has the record. See she is a Lab Tech in a medical center and anyone here who has a family member in the medical field they all think they know what the problem is and what to do to fix it. Now about 4 years ago she starts complaining about chest pains and I tell her go to the Doctor well I’m sure you guys know how far that went. So after a few days she is at work can’t catch her breath because the pain has gotten so bad. They rush her up to the cardiologist office he does a quick check and he rushes her to the hospital thinking he is having a heart attack. They get her in run her through all the checks including a heart catheter and yup you guessed it she has heart burn go figure… Now the story does not end there she goes to her regular doctor and he runs the tests to see what is going on prescribes some meds sends her on her way. A week goes by she starts feeling sick so she goes to the doctor after a few days he takes a look at her and I mean a look nothing more tells her she has a virus sends her home to get bed rest. Well that was on a Thursday and by Monday she says she is going back to see the doc because she is not doing well at all. She goes in he tells her yup you have a virus get some rest so she goes home. Now unknown to me from this point on she can only get to the bathroom on her hands and knees and if I ask her if she is hungry it was “I just ate a little while ago” when in fact she didn’t eat anything. Now come Wednesday she is feeling so crappy she goes back and the doc is not in but the physician assistant is and takes a look at her and asks what’s wrong. Well she tells her heart is beating real fast, a headache and hears what sounds like water rushing in her ears. The assistant takes a look at her chart and yup you guess it she has a virus and asks her if she is a coffee drinker and how long ago was her last cup of coffee and that is what may be causing the headache. So the assistant tells her to pick up some Excedrin with added caffeine and take those. Now she calls me at work and asks me to pick them up for her and ok I do it. Now Thursday she is feeling so bad she calls the because she can’t get to the car to drive herself in, and you guessed it never said a word to me about how bad she really is and when I say anything all I get is the doctor said it is nothing more than a virus it will pass. Well after calling and telling the receptionist at the office she can’t keep anything down and asks to speak to the doctor the receptionist tells her the doctor is busy at the moment and will call back. After a while the receptionist calls back and said the doctor has a prescription waiting for her at CVS. Wife calls me I say ok I’ll pick up the pills, yes pills for someone who is throwing up. Now right after that my step-daughter calls me at work all upset because she asked her mother for some info on the electric bill and my wife tells her she has no idea what she is talking about.. Well I take off from work walk in the door take one look at her dial 911 the ambulance shows up the EMT does a quick check and she is severely dehydrated and she is rushed to the hospital. They get her there do some quick checks ask her some questions which is when I found out how bad she really was but this is not the time to start on her about that. Well after a standard blood test the doctor comes in and tells her the bad news she has hemolytic anemia. Now I’m sitting without a clue what these 2 are talking about and the Doc tor looks at me and asks if I understand what they are talking about and I said nope. Well it seems my wife has at that time had about 3 hours to live if they don’t start blood transfusions right now and her red cell count is the lowest the hospital has ever seen in a living person. Well after a 2 weeks in the hospital and 14 pints of blood a bunch of steroids and some other great Doctors she is back to her normal self and doing great. That was the good news the bad news is we found out 6 weeks ago she has breast cancer but being the trouper she is (tough does not even begin to cover it) she is doing as good as one could do and receiving the best care going.

I do want to apologize for the length of this but Jack I just want you to see that even though it looks like crap today there will be a day when you can look back and see you’re a lot better off then you were before. I have gone through a ton of stuff on the bad side some my, fault some not but in the end even right now I feel I am way ahead of the game. I have a great lady who I love more than anything, who has done more for me in the short 10 years we have been together then most others have in my whole life.

[Yammer Dan]

I've been thru that one and ended up with the Warden. Would have swore it was the end of the world and ended up 100 times better!! Couldn't ask for a better Pardner!! If I could just get her on that bike. Knowing her I know she would love it. I think thats it she don't want to admit it!! Stay with us Buddy we'll fill in some spots for you!!

[skydoc_17]

Hi Jack,

Been there, done that as well! 16 years, Believe me, It's her LOSS! My Jean is 10 times the woman my X was! My dad always said "boy, if it don't kill ya', it will make you stronger!" IMHO, Keep the bike, throw the X to the curb!

Hang tuff,

Earl and Jean

[juggler]

Dang, talk about being blind-sided.

 

If you have a pastor or priest I would suggest meeting with him about this and try to get Jess there as well.

 

Otherwise, it's time to change you forum name to 'justjack' and change your password.

[Just-Jack]

Dang, talk about being blind-sided.

 

If you have a pastor or priest I would suggest meeting with him about this and try to get Jess there as well.

 

Otherwise, it's time to change you forum name to 'justjack' and change your password.

thank you all for your words of encougagement and support and for changing my forun name ..... if i knew how it would have been done by now

again thank you everyone

[dray]

Jack sorry to hear this best of luck im sure things will work out and if you need a hand with anything give a shout be glad to help or talk as others have said been there my self

 

things will get better

Dray

[rosebud]

thank you all for your words of encougagement and support and for changing my forun name ..... if i knew how it would have been done by now

again thank you everyone

 

 

So sorry to hear about your problems, As for you name if you send a request to Freebird he will help you out with changing your name. Hang in there!

[BradT]

WEll I guess I can say been there done that as well. Although I was traveling and while the cat was away the mouse played for approx 18 months (guess it could have been rats).

 

Well they can have each other, and made for each other.

 

I am far better off now with Naugh-T:thumbsup2:, and she pushed to get the bike and now we are here, so you know how much better off I am now. Plus I got two pretty good step daughters 13 and 16 (not perfect but pretty good)

 

All the best Jack and I liked the name "Just-Jack"

 

Brad