Hubby Wants Me to Sell My Baby!

[BEER30]

Let's put the shoe on the other foot !

 

Tell your hubby that you decided to ride along with a Porsche , Lamborghini , Mercedes , ....etc... group now . And that you will feel ashamed that he or yourself would have to ride what ever you are riding now . So if he did not go out and buy you one of these high priced cages , then you will just cut him off ! (Lady's #1 offenses towards the opposite sex) Don't forget , the pearls , diamonds , sexy leather , and the Pink Poodle !

 

BEER30

[Snarley Bill]

My husband and I went to look at the Sportsters today. I like the feel of my VStar better is all I can say. I told my husband that I refuse to sell my bike and if he does not want to ride with me, then that is fine too.

He can ride with his HD friends and I will ride by myself.

So we will see what happens.

highwaypeg:15_9_28[1]:

your alright, i will ride with you anytime. just don't tell my wife.

[PastorPaul]

Maybe you should go to an HD dealer alone and see if you like the Fat Boy or Soft Tail Classic, if you do, you can tell him you will switch to HD, but only if he will spring to get you the one you really like.

 

If he is going to make you get rid of the bike that is right for you, SOCK it to him. Make him get you a brand new hot pink Ultra Classic. That will fix his wagon. He wouldn't be caught dead on it.

 

In the mean time I will keep you and him in my prayers he needs to learn this as it will save him a lot of grief.

 

Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea.

Robert A. Heinlein

It only took me 8 years to learn this since then we have had a great marraige and I got a new RSV.

[ManWithAVision]

Sportster Eh! I would tell the old man if you must go Harley to minimize his insecurities about being outclassed, then you'll have to get a top of the line Electa Glide with all the trimmings like his. Make sure it's black though, to give you that nasty edge when you pull up in front of the biker bars. On second thought, how about running an ad in the Venture Riders classifieds for a new mate with a Japanese Harley. My wife ride a Suzuki C50 because she wants to!

[timgray]

I know why he wants you to get rid of your bike.

 

1 - your bike is faster than his and his buddies bikes. This really hurts their male egos. Cant have a lady on a faster bike.

 

2 - your Bike looks way nicer than theirs and he also thinks so. This hurts his feelings that you have a better ride than he does. Men tend to act like 6 year old children when their ego is hurt so they act childish and demand their wives downgrade to give them an ego boost.

 

3 - His harley biker friends wives and girlfriends have seen your bike and asked, "why is her bike nicer?" and wondering where they can get one. Harleys are known to go down in value fast when parked near bikes that are not harleys and therefore having more Yamaha's parked near harleys will cause a nation wide crash in harley values and stock.

[YamaDuck]

Well I hope this settled this chapter in you and your husbands life. I saw a lot of Harley bashing and I know it was all in fun. I prefer Yamaha's but Harley's are a lot better bike than they use to be. I have a lot of friends who ride Harley's and everyone of them will admit that Yamaha's are more reliable than Harley's. Now saying that none of them would get rid of their Harley for a Yamaha. The only reason I can think of is they think their Harley friends will shun them if they get anything other than a Harley. I am afraid they are probably right.

 

I think this is the biggest difference between a Yamaha owner and a Harley owner; Yamaha owners make friends easily and don't need to buy anything to make them fit in, where Harley owners feel they have to ride Harley's or they will not be liked. They don't make friends easily. Take my Harley friends for instance, they will ride with me and they will ride with our Yamaha group but they will not invite me or the Yamaha group to ride with their Harley friends.

 

All I can say is it must be a sad thing to have to buy a Harley so that you will have friends to ride with. Do you really want to call them friends? I think you have made a wise decision and I hope it does not hurt your relationship with your husband. Try and get your husband to try a Stratoliner, Road Star, V-Star or Royal Star and see if he likes one of them. When he tells you no that he likes what he is riding then that is when you tell him "see how it feels, that is what I have been trying to tell you". Then give him a big hug.

 

Harry

Edited March 30, 2009 by YamaDuck

[DragonRider]

My wife loves my VStar and if she were to ride her own it would be a V Star........She doesnt like Harley's except for the V Rod, one of our friends wife has one and she really likes the sound of it. But she doesnt want me to have a Harley but no problem there, I dont care for them either, I had a chance to pick up an Ultra Classic, 97 for $6500.00 and I passed on it for my V Star 1300. Not one regret here and the wife loves it.

[painterman67]

This might make a suitable comprimise. AT the bike show my wife found this and fell in love. She said if she ever replaced her shadow this would be it.

 

David

[highwaypeg]

All good points have been made on this thread. I did not say that I do not like Harley's. I just do not want to be forced to get one to please others.

I say if they leave me alone, I will be glad to do the same to them. I am only talking about their need to be with other HD owners.

I know not all HD owners are that way.

To me all motorcyclists should be able to be on the roads together.

So thanks to all who offered their comments and advice.

highwaypeg

 

 

[Guest BigJohnD]

Guys on Harleys like women with attitude...sell his bike and move in with a Yamaha dude...oh and take the dog with you...that should send a message...

[PBJ]

Just tell your Hubby that when you all go riding you'll make sure you stop occasionally so they can catch up.

 

Or if your going to buy a Harley Have him buy you a V-Rod. Its even faster than your Star, its a Harley and His friends will still hate it! Lmao!!

 

Ps. I just checked your profile pics and must agree your husband doesn't look the type to be persuaded by childish peer pressure. Oh well Looks can be decieving. Two years ago I saw a woman rid in on a V-Rod with a Road glide kit on it. It was fast and beautiful Its the only Harley I'd recommend

Edited March 30, 2009 by PB&J

[RedRider]

Peg,

 

I have been reading this thread with amusement and amazement. I would cut your hubby some slack as he was surely just wanting to show you his love. Perhaps in his mind, the logical progression of bikes is an evolution from smaller metric bikes up to full Harley bagger. He might have just felt that your riding skills were improved enough to move 'up' the evolutionary ladder.

 

The first organized ride I ever went on was a HOG rally ride. The young lady I was dating at the time rode a Sporty and had a brother-in-law that invited her to the HOG rally. I, of course, rode my new to me Venture (first bike). Every comment was very positive from every HD rider. There was not one stereotypical slam on 'riceburners' and they were all pleased to welcome a new rider - no matter what they rode.

 

This changed my attitude towards HD riders pretty quickly. I was prepared to take abuse, but it didn't come.

 

Thank your husband on his compliment to your skills, placate him with trying out a Sporty, and lovingly advise him you are happy to ride the 'paid for' V-Star.

 

I wish my wife rode her own bike. Your husband is a lucky man. Besides, his friends are just jealous that he has a wife that rides. They may be taking it out on him that he doesn't love you enough to get you a HD.

 

Just reassure him that we won't make fun of his bike when he comes on a ride with us either.

 

Keep us up to date on how this gets resolved.

 

RR

[eazyduzzit]

I wish my wife rode her own bike. Your husband is a lucky man. Besides, his friends are just jealous that he has a wife that rides.

 

Several have said something like this. If my wife wanted to ride her own then it would be fine with me, but I'm glad she likes riding on the back with me. I've asked her and she has no desire to ride her own, but she loves riding 2 up with me. I like it too. I have a lot more fun when she's with me.

[Freebird]

Folks...I've read through all these posts and even added a couple of light hearted responses myself but I honestly think we, as a group, have been a bit hard on Peg's husband. We don't know the guy and he may be a wonderful person. Many of us here feel strongly about the bikes that we own and ride. If a friend or neighbor were to ask us for a recommendation, most of us would suggest that they try out a RSV, RSTD, or Venture. It's just sort of a natural thing for us to recommend the bike that we all enjoy so much.

 

If my wife were to want a new bike, I would likely take her to the Yamaha dealer to look at the VStars and other Yamaha models. If I owned and was riding a Harley though, I would probably take her to the Harley dealership to check out the bikes there. It's just sort of a natural thing to do.

 

The fact is, most of us here don't care what make or model bike a person rides. Peg's husband would be more than welcome to join us at any of our events and I am extending an invitation right now for him to join Peg for my Maintenance Day on June 6th. I know that the issue here is NOT that he rides a Harley but that he seems to be pressuring her to ride one also. If it is because he is embarassed about her being on a Yamaha in front of his friends, then I agree that he needs to get his priorities in order. It may just as well be that he just happens to love the Harley motorcycles and wants Peg to have what he thinks would bring her more joy. We really don't know his reasons and so really shouldn't be judging him at this point.

 

I will say that, in my opinion, the Sporty is not near the bike that the VStar is. If my wife wanted a Harley, I would be suggesting one of the Dyna series...perhaps the Dyna Lowrider. Very nice bike and one that she would better handle because it has a low seat height.

 

Oh well....enough said for now. I'm personally not hung up on brands. I just love motorcycles. Harley, Honda, Yamaha, Triumph.....whatever. Doesn't matter to me. If I was a rich man, I would likely have several brands in my garage and one of the first additions would be a Harley of one model or another. I love the sound, the classic look, the fit and finish. Few companies do chrome and paint as well as Harley does and though the VTwin engine would be very dated by some, Harley has many features that surpass those on our RSVs. Fuel injection, anti-lock Brembo brakes, available factory security systems, much better audio system, etc. They have stayed with their VTwin engine because they LISTEN to their customers and that is what their customers love. As much as I love my RSV, can any of you point to anything that Yamaha has changed over the past 10 years due to the input that we have given them?

 

So Peg, I hope that your husband keeps an open mind and allows you to be your own person and respects your choices to ride whatever puts the biggest smile on your face but when the final chapter of this story is written, please know that you will always be welcome here. Some of these responses would scare off a person who chooses a Harley as their preferred ride but that is not the intention here. The repsonses have been intended to show support for you and your right to make up your own mind but many come across as Harley bashing. If your husband happens to read these posts, please let him know that he is welcome here and at my home for Maintenance Day. I hope that you can make it whether he chooses to join you or not.

[mountainhorsega]

Hi Folks,

I have a real problem. My husband is a Harley guy. He never wanted me to buy my VStar from the beginning. Now because he hangs out with his Harley friends he wants me to get rid of my VStar which I really love.

He wants me to get a Sportster, which I really do not care for.

I do not think this is fair to me, when I love my VStar.

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

 

highwaypeg:crying:

 

Don really beat me to this but -

 

I was just about to say - we don't know why he wants her to ride a sporty. Then, I went back and looked at the original post.

He may just want her to be happier. or maybe he is embarrassed by the Yamaha. Either way, Peg I think you have made you decision and told him your choice. This is really a very giving and forgiving group of people and you would both be welcomed.

 

It sounds like you guys have been together for some time - I would expect that he will respect your decision. You have already tried the sportster and feel like it isn't what you want and have told him so. If he doesn't respect your decision (or you), then it is just a matter of deciding how you want to handle it. Just do what it takes to make you happy - even if it is the compromise of riding the Harley to be with someone you care about.

 

Horse

[gibvel]

So, Highwaypeg, how's this going lately? Got your Sportster yet?

[mini-muffin]

I was wondering as well. You can't keep us in the dark. We're not a very patient bunch. So how is it going?

 

Margaret

[autopilot]

I see a few potentially fun options. (of course, I could be wrong)

 

1. Take a line from Nancy Reagan and "Just say NO"! ( A variation would be to say.."What part of it ain't happening, don't you understand, honey?") [NO, Wait, that's a line MY wife would use!!!]

OR

 

2. Tell him: "I am putting my foot down....you MUST sell the Harley and get a Venture and you don't want to hear a bunch of discussion on it"!!

OR

3. Tell him: "Do you remember the last time we had sex? To which he will certainly respond..Yes. Then you say: "I hope your memory stays good or you have pictures!":yikes:

OR

4. Tell him: "Look, honey, If you don't back off on the bike thing, I'm going to start showing up at some of your bike get togethers wearing an 'I actually, really hate Harleys' T-shirt with your (his) name stenciled on it.":stickpoke:

OR

 

Tell him: "You don't want my bike here....Fine, sell it, but there better be a new Aston-Martin Vanquish sittin in the driveway with my name on the title, before sunset!!!!! And, oh yeah...stuff the Harley!":innocent:

 

This was all in jest. I hope nobody took it too seriously.

If it works, however, I get credit!

[mini-muffin]

OK you get the blam....oh credit. :rotf::rotf:

 

Margaret

[highwaypeg]

Thank you every one, especially Autopilot for your very helpful suggestions. It has been sort of difficult around here concerning this topic. I do think we have come an agreement. I am sorry that I have not been on lately I have been busy.

I told my husband that I will not give up my VStar. He seems to be ok with it, especially sense the

Heritage Softtail that I was eying was a bit expensive. I said no Sportster for sure.

He has agreed that my VStar is a nice bike for me to ride, especially since I am a new rider.

So I guess the end of the story is, I am keeping my bike. I will ride with my husband on his bike when we go with his Harley friends.

We have been married too many years to have this tear us a part. I want to thank you all for your support, you have all been so kind and caring to me. I will never forget your kindness.

highwaypeg:happy34:

[Bob Myers]

Several have said something like this. If my wife wanted to ride her own then it would be fine with me, but I'm glad she likes riding on the back with me. I've asked her and she has no desire to ride her own, but she loves riding 2 up with me. I like it too. I have a lot more fun when she's with me.

 

I bought a wrecked Vulcan for Tina, she looked at it while it was still wrecked and said she would never give up her KZ550 or her 454LTD for "that thing". When it was finished and she sat on it for the first time the look in her eyes was what dreams are for. We sold both of her other bikes! Now she swears she will never give up the Vulcan, ever, not for anything. Since she is my riding partner and bestest friend, I let her have her way.

Point being, I tried after wards to convince her to get a new bike, the more I harped on it the more she withdrew from me on that and other things. I saw what was going to happen and dropped the subject. Maybe some day she will want another bike, maybe some day you will want another bike. Until that day comes I support your decision 100%.

[twowheelsonly]

Go with your Honey and buy the nicest chromed out HD you can find, just make sure it makes your heart sing! and get your sweety to buy it for you as a small token of his appreciation for you giving up your favorite ride!

 

About $25,000 should do it and you will have a pretty cool ride... The good news is HD copied Yamaha engineering so they are improving the quality of their top line models!!!

[autopilot]

Why thank you, you're quite welcome. I'm glad I could uh...help....yeah...help, that's it.

[Who Dey]

Thank you every one, especially Autopilot for your very helpful suggestions. It has been sort of difficult around here concerning this topic. I do think we have come an agreement. I am sorry that I have not been on lately I have been busy.

I told my husband that I will not give up my VStar. He seems to be ok with it, especially sense the

Heritage Softtail that I was eying was a bit expensive. I said no Sportster for sure.

He has agreed that my VStar is a nice bike for me to ride, especially since I am a new rider.

So I guess the end of the story is, I am keeping my bike. I will ride with my husband on his bike when we go with his Harley friends.

We have been married too many years to have this tear us a part. I want to thank you all for your support, you have all been so kind and caring to me. I will never forget your kindness.

highwaypeg:happy34:

 

 

All i can say is that if they wont let you ride "YOUR V STAR" with them when they go on rides then i wouldn't go with them at all, not even on the back of your husbands bike. If owning a Harley is a requirement for you to ride with them then they are not your friends, and i'm just going to be blunt here, if your husband feels the same way that they do i would ditch him too. Sorry but that is just stupid!

[gibvel]

I'm sorry but attitudes like that infuriate me.

 

Tell him he's a narrow, closed minded boob who can't think for himself, and has to go along with the crowd!!