Cinderella Posted September 17, 2008 Author #26 Posted September 17, 2008 some good news for once ! The detectives called me today and informed me that the little boy has now said that what was said before invloving us is NOT TRUE! What a relief as we were seriously contemplating getting a lawyer......the detective even told me that in his opinion ( which he said he doesnt like to say anything) definately wasnt necessary. However.....isnt there always something negative to it all? they are still concerned that something may have happened to this boy....and are asking for our help in trying to put together what may have or could have happened. The whole story has taken a turn and now they are strongly checking out the possibilty that he could have been at the mans house also, maybe even with haylie. He could not tell me specifics but by the questions asked i knew where it is going now.... I sincerely hope nothing happened to this boy, but he is definately getting ideas, if you will, from somewhere. We will do anything to help that we can, but its definately hard to let go of what they did to us by raising questions and accusations . I guess this is where forgiveness comes in which is a real hard issue right now. It also is a problem because the story keeps changing. So what will become of this I dontknow right now.....its been my fear that this guy has done this before and i sincerely am hoping that there werent more instances that invloved Haylie. I asked if they wanted me to question Haylie about whether her and the little boy had ever been over there together, but both detectives would rather i not.....they dont want to cloud her mind or memory in any way to hurt our case which they again said was a strong good case. There is a hearing on Tuesday at 9 am.....not sure if its just for the bond reduction issue or what, but please keep praying that they dont let it be reduced so he can not get out and be back right next door to us.that would be devastating to Dale and I to deal with that. For now I am relieved that the little boy told the truth about us and haylie. It's scarey guys, when you are victims of a crime and it gets turned around on you and you become part of the questions.
Iowawegian Posted September 17, 2008 #27 Posted September 17, 2008 Glad to hear things are getting better. You guys are strong and keep remembering that your helping to keep this creep from ever doing this to someone else. Your family is still in our thoughts and prayers....
cecdoo Posted September 17, 2008 #28 Posted September 17, 2008 Glad to hear some good news from you guys, hopefully it will keep getting better. Your family has been thru more than its share of problems lately, but you really seem to be handling it very well, I wish you guys the best and the strength to fight thru all of this, hope things are going well for your little girl too. Take care, better days are coming. craig
mtman Posted September 17, 2008 #29 Posted September 17, 2008 some good news for once ! The detectives called me today and informed me that the little boy has now said that what was said before invloving us is NOT TRUE!..... Again, Because the story keeps changing, get all of the info you can get in writing! Our prayers do go out to you as these kinds of things put such a tremendous amount of stress on your lives.
mini-muffin Posted September 17, 2008 #30 Posted September 17, 2008 Glad the little boy told the truth. Hopefully they can concentrate on this creep. I hope and pray that the two kids weren't there together. Hang tough and we'll be here for you all. Margaret
Yammer Dan Posted September 17, 2008 #31 Posted September 17, 2008 Good NewsCindy!! We will keep you in our prayers.
Brake Pad Posted September 17, 2008 #32 Posted September 17, 2008 comtinuing, my prayers for you and your family:thumbsup2:
krome rose Posted September 17, 2008 #33 Posted September 17, 2008 Good luck Tuesday. I surely hope that there is no bond reduction. That man does not need to be back in the neighborhood, or in public. I apologize for asking, but is this perp married? His house needs to be put up for sale. Brandy
Cinderella Posted September 17, 2008 Author #34 Posted September 17, 2008 no he isnt married, but he was at one time........i believe he also has a grown daughter, but i have never seen her over there, nor have i ever heard then make mention of her other than he has a daughter. the problem is that he lives there in his parents house. It is not his house. yeah a 53 yr old drunk who still lives with mommy and daddy and he does nothing to help them out either....like mowing, or stuff around the house. He is a small sickly man, (has health issues) and I could whoop his a** if need be.....:whistling: As of yesterday he has been in jail for a month now.....and lets hope he never sees light of day again. Im sure hes been thru alcohol withdrawal by now and is probably kicking himself for confessing when they arrested him. Im still hoping and praying that it never ends up going to trial.....but there is also no way i will ever agree to a plea bargain either unless he is going to pay dearly. I still have to sit down and write a victims impact statement for the prosecutor....telling how this has affected our lives...i havent been able to put myself thru that yet but i know i need to get it done. I did write a letter for the hearing on his bond reduction and hopefully it helps with that. I will be sure to let you all know what happens or doesnt happen on tuesday.its going to be tough to see him that day and hold back the anger and emotions.
mini-muffin Posted September 18, 2008 #35 Posted September 18, 2008 You just hang tight through it. It's gonna be tough but you'll at least get to know what's going on. Are any of the BACA guys going? Margaret
Guest tessa c2 Posted September 18, 2008 #36 Posted September 18, 2008 we are still with you cindy, hang tight and hopefully you will have a great day on tuesday t/c hazel&pete
FozzyUSN Posted September 18, 2008 #37 Posted September 18, 2008 Sit down a little each day and write out your impact statement. It will allow you to gather your thoughts. You'll find out that it is easier this way than to try and write everything down that's going through your mind, which I can only imagine at this moment. Above all, remember we are all here to help and act as your sounding board when ever you need. Good luck and as everyone else has said, you and your family are in our prayers!
Yammer Dan Posted September 18, 2008 #38 Posted September 18, 2008 I need to tell you about Bubba one of these days Cindy. Black boy about 6 ft 7 inches around 285 lbs with about -----------and he just loves little white boys. Maybe he will end up in the same cell. They kind of give him his choice of cellies to keep him quiet. Laugh you know you want to. Praying for you. Am I sick???
Cinderella Posted September 18, 2008 Author #39 Posted September 18, 2008 I need to tell you about Bubba one of these days Cindy. Black boy about 6 ft 7 inches around 285 lbs with about -----------and he just loves little white boys. Maybe he will end up in the same cell. They kind of give him his choice of cellies to keep him quiet. Laugh you know you want to. Praying for you. Am I sick??? well if your sick im sick too......... i often sit and hope he becomes on the receiving end ( no pun intend or is it???) and relives what hes done for many many days
Ozark Posted September 18, 2008 #40 Posted September 18, 2008 Cindy, glad to hear a little good news from your family. I know this is another page in a very dark chapter of your life, but we know that GOD will be with you through it all. We want you to know that you, Dale, and Haylie are all in our prayers.
VTirelli Posted September 19, 2008 #41 Posted September 19, 2008 My feelings are, if he did this once, he's probably done it before, so that little boy might have experienced something if he was at that house.And I would bet that once it gets out in the public eye, more victims might start talking. As for your VIS, what I do when I'm writing something emotional is to write it all, let it out..don't hold back. Then let it sit overnight and go over it, editing, deleting and re wording. Not only does it make a better document....it helps me vent and I actually feel better. Just my 2 cents Still here for you guys
Sweetnothing Posted September 19, 2008 #42 Posted September 19, 2008 Cindy, Just see if you can get a restraining order against him I believe they are for 100 feet, which means if he gets out, he can't go home!:banana:
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